Who suffers most in a war?
The commanders, who fight with coloured pins stabbed in a map? The soldiers, trained to the weapons and the
glory? Or the women, the children, the
old and the helpless, who want none of it – and the animals, who do not understand?
The women
Men don’t have to “adjust to a war situation.” They cause it! But ever since one dumbfool man threw a rock at another, women have had to bear with their men going off to fight, all too often taking their sons with them.
Men don’t have to “adjust to a war situation.” They cause it! But ever since one dumbfool man threw a rock at another, women have had to bear with their men going off to fight, all too often taking their sons with them.
Behind me I sense centuries of women, dressed in the
fashions of their time – skins, bustles, mid-calf skirts – nodding and saying, “Oh
yes, we know. We too!” It has happened to every generation. Did we think we would be spared?
Those women must have coped somehow. I mean, if all the men went to war and all
the women went to pieces the problem of adjusting
would have fallen away, along with mankind.
How did early women manage?
Did she sit like this, staring down into a beautiful valley turned
suddenly hostile, worrying and wondering when , if ever, her Early Man would
come back? Did she force herself up from
her despondency and get along with minding the kids and tending the fire? Even taking advantage of the situation and
going on a crash diet and redecorating the cave walls while the old man was out
from underfoot?
Did everything go wrong as soon as he left? Sure, she didn’t have a fridge whose handle
would fall off leaving the door in the locked position ten minutes before
breakfast on a school day. And she
didn’t have a car whose torque, whatever that is, wouldn’t torque to her any
more because of something to do with the engine turning which won’t.
But I bet the moment her he-man hitched his haunch over hump
of the hill the dog threw a fit that looked suspiciously like rabies and there
weren’t any vets in those days, and an out-of-season landslide brought the cave
down.
Today’s Man gets called out at half an hour’s notice and
Today’s Woman spins through the kitchen looking for something substantial to
feed him before he goes because the roast isn’t done yet; sifts desperately
through the sand pit for the camp cutlery set and tin mug the kids were playing
with; frantically sews buttons back on his pants while he’s stepping into them
already.
Perhaps it’s no worse than trying to get a decent design in
war paint on him while he’s sweating and won’t keep still, sharpening the
spikes on his mace, or clanking him into his armour.
Today’s Son wallows in war tales, talks weapons and tactics
with his father beyond his mother’s understanding. She purrs with pride to see him grow so fine
and strong and wishes he was a baby she could cradle away from harm. All too soon he will be off too, a man with a
boy’s light laughter. And they’ll come
back (dear Lord, let them come back), brother warriors the pair of them,
thumping each others’ shoulders and leaving the dreadful language men talk
among themselves outside like dirty boots.
And she’ll pretend she wasn’t miserable without them and send them off
to wash as if they were children.
Love and worry are worn together, the warp and the weave of
the heart’s homespun mantle.
We tread the same path through the centuries, we women, in
our skins and bustles and mid-calf skirts, minis and denims and all. And while our men fight to stop the fighting
and dare not stop themselves or be over-run, we must leave for a moment our
dismal valley-watching and go in and feed the kids and the cats and tell the
war to wait while we finish the chores.
The dogs
When you are just a little puppy, loving only your mother in
all the world, they take you away, from her, from your brothers and sisters.
You don’t understand.
You just don’t understand why.
But they are good to you and soon the hurt eases. You are a child with their children and life
is good. For some reason, time goes
faster for you than for them. The
children are still children when you are grown.
And you are a parent with their parents.
They are all you want and all you need and life is good, loving only
them in all the world.
In the night strangers come, wet with rain, reeking of hate
and danger. You challenge them but they
are many. They drag your people from
their beds, the parents and the children.
Drag them shrieking out into the rain.
You fight. You bite. You scream for help. But the strangers are many and no help comes. The clothes are torn from your people. Struggling and praying they are apassed from
man to man.
Guns bark. Pangas
flash. And at last the screams are
stopped with blood.
And the strangers walk away, laughing.
All night you stay with them. With their blood and their silence in the
rain. You call to them and lick their
faces, loving only them in all the world.
But they grow cold in the rain.
All night you cry for help and no help comes.
You don’t understand.
You just don’t understand why.
In the pre-dawn of Wednesday, August 11th 1971, Umtali came
under mortar attack. In a few moments
everyone in the suburb of Greenside realised what was happening – everyone except
the animals. Without the reassurance and
control few owners had time or thought to give them, they fled in panic into other
suburbs, to the distant industrial sites, up Christmas Pass on the other side
of town, into the hills, anywhere to escape the awful noise.
All that day our phones rang incessantly as frantic owners
enquired after lost pets and other reported dogs cowering in dark corners or
staggering around exhausted, lost and blank-eyed with shock.
Some dogs ran until their pads were bleeding and they were
virtually crawling on their elbows. Some
normally friendly dogs turned so vicious in their fear they attacked those
trying to help them. One very old dog
was found an incredible distance from his home, hiding in a lumber yard. A ridgeback puppy was not found until five
days later. Few had any form of
identification on them and afterwards an appeal was launched for people to put
licence discs or address tags on their dogs because this sort of thing could
happen again. How much quicker it would
have been to have called the owner to come to the dog instead of spending
twenty precious minutes coaxing it out of some inaccessible place while all
those others were crying for help. Those
dogs needed their owners that day far more than they needed us.
The cats in the affected areas vanished, then turned up
later ready to forgive everyone the way cats do. There was only one report of a missing
cat. This Siamese belonged to the house
whose roof was hit and after a long and desperate search was found unharmed
beneath the rubble.
Over a month later another casualty came to light – a small
black dog belonging to a man who worked at Forbes Border Post. This dog was found after the raid with
paralyzed hindquarters and taken to a vet, who advised the owner to let him put
him to sleep. The owner did not want to
do this and hid the dog illegally in one of the townships in a chicken coop
under a wheelbarrow.
Because the dragging legs became raw, he made “socks” from
bicycle inner tube and wired them on.
The lack of circulation and air caused the hind feet to rot and it was a
mercy that the dog could not feel anything.
The genuinely concerned owner had done his best in his ignorance.
Following a report, this pathetic little casualty was
discovered and taken again to a vet. As
he was removing the rubber and wire from the putrid feet, the vet noticed a
pronounced difference in the size, shape and expression in each of the dog’s
eyes. A few simple tests showed positive
brain damage. This time the sad owner
agreed to have his put out of its long misery.
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